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In the beautifully complex world of a neurodiverse family, every member brings their own unique characteristics. Balancing the dynamics between ADHD and non-ADHD family members can be both a challenge and an opportunity for growth, understanding, and unity. It also creates an opportunity for a continual growth mindset in our children of the differing personality traits they will inevitably encounter, offering strength as they build in the key skill area of communication. Central to navigating this landscape is the practice of holding inclusive family meetings—gatherings that honor each person's perspective, celebrate differences, and strengthen family bonds.
Family meetings are a cornerstone of effective communication within a neurodiverse family. These gatherings should be designed to include everyone, ensuring that both ADHD and non-ADHD family members feel heard and valued. The aim is to foster an environment where every person—regardless of their neurotype—can share their thoughts, feelings, and experiences openly.
Start with setting ground rules that encourage equal participation. This might include using a talking stick or another object that signifies who has the floor to ensure everyone gets their turn without interruption.
While it’s important to address the specific needs and challenges related to ADHD, ensure that the agenda also covers topics of interest to all family members. This could range from planning a family outing to discussing weekly chores or celebrating personal achievements.
Maintain a balance between structure and flexibility. Having a clear agenda can help keep the meeting on track, but it’s also important to allow for spontaneous discussion and to address emerging topics that family members want to talk about.
I like to suggest here that families use this day as an electronic free day. I always suggest intentionally setting family meetings on a weekend morning depending on your family activities, Saturday’s or Sunday’s… Have all family members put their devices in a basket or lock box before breakfast. In our family my husband or I start with the intention of the meeting. We like to make this a fun time, with plenty of laughs and continue with speaking about the week prior, i.e. what was the favorite part of every one’s week and then move onto the topic we are wanting to discuss and learn together as a family. (We usually look at what wasn’t working that we noticed this past week amongst our kiddos and family, as well as what didn’t seem to be working in our parenting… we are very open with this with our kids and enjoy getting their input on better ways to navigate in the future.) We also discuss our plans for the week ahead and what activities the kids will enjoy doing as a family that day.
See my blog post on Couples Communication here to see how my husband and I discuss first our family meetings before breakfast with one another over coffee time.
Creating an atmosphere of mutual understanding is crucial. This involves recognizing and respecting the different ways in which ADHD and non-ADHD family members perceive and interact with the world around them.
Take some time as a family to educate each other about different aspects of ADHD and neurodiversity. Sharing articles, videos, or personal stories can help non- ADHD members understand the ADHD experience, and vice versa.
Highlight the strengths and positive aspects of ADHD, such as creativity, energy, and the ability to think outside the box, as well as the strengths of non-ADHD members. Emphasize that every family member has unique contributions that enrich the family dynamic.
I like to suggest here that you use different times other than family meeting time to talk to each child individually about this aspect. For your neurotypical family members talk to them about how the brain is wired in a different way with neurodiverse vs. neurotypical. Point out the strengths there are within their sibling or other family members and how they can encourage their family member with ADHD by pointing out those strengths when they see them. Also explain how their brain works and why they may act a certain way compared to the neurotypical and paint it in a light that is a positive rather than a negative. This helps to foster positive relationships as a whole family. And do the same with your neurodivergent family members, helping them understand how they can choose to work best with their other family members and encourage them to point out their strengths. This helps to foster relationship and build in growth mindsets. This will be a topic that is inevitably brought up in a family meeting by the children, fostering communication amongst one another, as well as giving you the moments you long to see as parents who know your family is learning and listening to your wisdom.
Read more on this in our blog Strategies for Effective Communication
Developing emotional intelligence is key to nurturing empathy and compassion among all family members.
Encourage family members to express their feelings and validate them, showing that it’s okay to feel frustrated, excited, or anything in between. This practice helps build emotional resilience and understanding.
Use family meetings as a safe space to address and resolve conflicts. Approach disagreements with a problem-solving mindset, focusing on finding solutions that consider everyone’s needs and feelings.
When you notice a conflict possibly starting to arise in a family meeting, this is the time you get to foster key language to effectively communicate where everyone is heard, maintaining respect and clearly understanding one another. Building this confidence in them is one more key aspect to fostering mindfulness and growth mindsets.
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Beyond discussions, family meetings can also be a time to plan or engage in activities that everyone can enjoy, regardless of neurotype.
Whether it’s a movie night, a nature hike, or a board game session, shared activities can strengthen family connections and create lasting memories.
Make it a point to celebrate both individual and family achievements during your meetings, reinforcing the idea that everyone’s successes are valued and contribute to the family’s collective joy.
In our family we discuss both what we would like to do for that day, (As parents we set the limit at the start of what is feasible.) We also discuss future plans. I.e. that year’s family vacation and different activities we would like to do during our vacation; or smaller trips to the children’s museum that month or zoo…)
See our blog on Creating ADHD Inclusive Family Bonding Outings
In a neurodiverse family, embracing differences and fostering open, inclusive communication are key to building a strong, cohesive unit. Family meetings that cater to the needs, strengths, and perspectives of both ADHD and non-ADHD members are instrumental in this process. By coming together in understanding, support, and celebration, every family member can thrive, contributing to a unique and vibrant family dynamic.
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Welcome to our blog—a dedicated space where we share insights, strategies, and stories to support families navigating the ADHD journey. Whether you're looking for practical advice, personal stories from other parents, or the latest research on ADHD, you'll find it all here.
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